For years I have heard people speak so naively about living in a small town or a close knit community. There is a sense of security and sadly it's a false one. I for one struggle with keeping a balance of sheltering my kids yet letting them live a care-free childhood. I continue to educate them on the real world...and it's tricky. You want them to know that not everyone can be trusted, yet you don't want them to never trust anyone. You want them to know that bad things happen, but want to spare them the details. As a mom I find that I continue to take their burden's and let myself be the one to worry about evil.
I keep myself educated. I check the sexual offenders registry often and know of who is living in my neighborhood and town. I also make sure that I know where and who my children are with. It's very important to me that adults are always around, but that they are never put into a dangerous situation with an adult. I also educate my children on personal space and welcome/unwelcome touches. I work to make sure that my children keep their tender hearts, but keep in mind that these things do happen. As parents we can be so vigil, but there are times when we can't always be there. We can't always protect them.
I also try to keep in mind that these people who harm children are just that...people. We live in an evil world where people do evil things. It's hard for me not to judge and then I think about myself. I think about the grace and mercy that God has shown me and I wonder how I can show that to those who are truly remorseful and repentive. In my life I have met a few like this. Unable to come to grips with what they have done. Haunted by a past of abuse themselves. Forever marred by their actions...by society.
The sad thing about abuse is that it's an evil horrible cycle. Victims continually become abusers, unless they are able to get help and break the cycle. My heartaches for this world. My heartaches for those who live in abusive homes. Those who are not watched carefully and continually put into harmful situations. Those who are watched carefully and their abusers are those they know well. My heartaches for those victimized and unable to tell. Feeling trapped. Feeling like no one will understand. I pray that they will find someone to reach out to. I pray that healing comes to those who want to stop the cycle of abuse.
|Thee is no agony like an untold story inside of you|
~After hearing about the abduction of 15 year old Kthlynn Shepard and another 12 year old girl by a sex offender my heart wanted to bring out my feelings about this topic. Please pray for Kathlynn's family she is still missing. The 12 year old was able to escape, but Kthlynn has been missing from her small town in Iowa since Monday. Friday I plan on connecting the issue of sexual abuse with eating disorders.