"MOM! I have an OWIE!" I hear my 3rd daughter say as he hobbles her way too me. I look over and all I see is an old scrape. I doubt that it hurts her right now, it's just the fact that she discovered it and now it "hurts". She probably hurt it last week sometime.
"I'm sorry! Do you need me to kiss it?" I say this with the knowledge that a mommy kiss makes everything feel better.
"NO! I need a band-aid!!!!"
And my answer to her...
"Well you can't have a band-aid for everything."
I know what you are thinking. I am such a mean and harsh mommy. Put yourself in my shoes for a second. You live in a house with 5 girls who all take after their mom. I was the biggest band-aid waster in all of history! My mom will probably read this and think "I don't know why she won't give them a band-aid...she always got the band-aids!" This is also why the band-aids are well out of my girls' reach!
I started to think about it though. I wonder if I treat their emotions like this. I'm sorry that boy hurt your feelings, but we can't have a band-aid for everything. I'm sorry that your feeling sad or upset, but we can't have a band-aid for everything. Treating their emotional problems as if they are only an old scrape.
So then do I treat other people in my life this way? People who come to me with their problems...do I just tend to tell them to brush it off? I have held this motto in my life for sometime "Pick yourself up and just brush it off!" For awhile that motto was a way to survive, but now it just seems harsh and not something that others should be encouraged to use. When I think about those I talk to who have eating disorders often times they feel like people over look the real problem. When I think about when I dealt with it I felt the same way. For those who are helping people recover it's all about getting the person to eat, but for those recovering it's about healing a deeper wound. Something that brushing off won't help.
So lets start while these girls are young. Let's not just over look their emotions. Make sure they are validated and seen as important to talk about. It's true, we can't have a band-aid for everything, but sometimes they just make us feel better.