Saturday, April 28, 2012

I Pray...

I remember one time reading a book written by a mother whose teenage daughter was near death because of anorexia. She talked about how she would pick a place to pray for her daughter right where she knew that she would hear her prayers. Most of the time she would get down on her knees and pray outside of her bedroom door. I also remember hearing the daughter's side of it and how she talked about the effect of hearing her mother plead for her life. How it was one of the strongest influences for changing her ways.

I have often thought about this. My daughter's don't struggle with eating disorders, but I know that there are many thing in this world that can effect them and possibly trigger them. I often thought that if they were ever to develop one I would use this strategy.

So why am I waiting? Why would I wait until after they have a problem to make sure I sit outside their bedroom door and pray? It hit me hard, that it's important to do this now even before there are any problems. I often tell my girls that prayer is a powerful thing. It's the most powerful thing we have. It's how we communicate to God. It's the one thing that can never be taken away from us, and is so important to use and know how to use.

I was extremely convicted at my lack of praying for my girls while they can hear me. So now I pray outside of their door. Most nights it's probably too late for them to hear, but I still do it. The more I do it the more they will hear me praying for their lives. Praying that things in our culture won't grab a hold of them and tie them down. Praying that they will have strength to fight the urge to harm their bodies. So I pray...Do you?

Sunday, April 22, 2012

Not Just a Diet

I have to admit, I sat down to write this blog days ago. It seemed that this is a harder one for me to write. My week also proved to be extremely hectic with bad news around every corner. But today on our quiet Sunday afternoon I am determined to write this one out.

After hearing my oldest daughter scream out "I'm losing weight" I realized just how much I actually still focus on diets and losing pounds. Right now I am in no way in risk of being underweight, but is focusing all my attention on my diet and the pounds a good idea? Our daughter didn't actually lose weight, it was a .3 difference and for her someone who doesn't weigh herself often it was pretty cool to see.

So here I am reflecting on the fact that the problem with eating disorders is never the diet. It's a problem in the mind and it's a deadly one. Right now I still struggle with my thoughts at times and it's something I never want to see my daughters deal with. My hope is that no one would ever have to deal with this life long struggle. So how are we able to help our daughters?

How often do you find yourself obsessing over how much you weigh? Or how often do you hear yourself say "I need to go on a diet?" Our daughters live in a world that is obsessed with diet and body image. Far more obsessed than when we grew up! We as mothers are their first example of how to deal with this issue. We need to remember that they pick up on everything we do and say even..."I'm losing weight!" So here is a great things we can do...

Don't be focused on your weight or diet. Be focused on eating healthy and staying healthy. My husband and I both have big health issues in both of our families. Diabetes, heart problems and high cholesterol are just a few of them. Our focus is staying healthy, and for now we have taken the scale out of our house. Being healthy is not about the numbers. We could have really good numbers but still not be healthy. Let's start with making good choices about the foods we eat and the level of activeness we have.

Lets help our children understand that it's not about the numbers, by taking our focus off of that!

Thursday, April 19, 2012

From The Start

This week has been a crazy one for me, but it also helped me realize how important it is to write on here. I have a message that often times is forgotten until it is almost too late. Often it's something that is not openly talked about and sadly it's not as cut and dry as other illnesses.

Eating disorders effect about 8 million people in the United States. 7 million of those are women and sadly 95% of those with an eating disorder are between the ages of 12 and 25. Anorexia is the 3rd most common chronic illness among adolescents. To most people these numbers look hopeless, but to me I see these numbers and I hear of younger and younger girls dealing with EDs and I want to help make a change. I want to see these numbers drastically change and I think one of the first ways is to help moms be more informed and help their daughters gracefully travel through what can be the hardest time of their lives... adolescents.

This site is not just for moms of teenagers, but really I believe helping your daughters through their teen years starts when they are young. My daughters are between the ages of 7 years old and 11 months and at times I can already see where things can start. It may be that I am ultra sensitive to the issues since I still deal with issues from Anorexia that started in high school, but I also think there is a more drastic view of image in our society today. It all makes it hard for me not to see the issues.

We live in a world that is obsessed with image and the thought of perfection. It's hard for our young girls not to be effected by this. So I hope that you will join me on this journey of mine as we learn together how to help our young daughters. To help them understand their worth and beauty.

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