Monday, December 31, 2012

365 Days of Creativity?

Have you ever wondered what a year of creativity would look like? I have! I've been reading this book called 365: A Daily Creativity Journal: Make Something Every Day and Change Your Life. I have been wanting to start it for a long time, but it just never felt right! But hey what better time to start than tomorrow? Right?

I typically am not the kind of person who sets new year resolutions. I would fall in that horribly large amount of people who never keeps them. So I just never make them. So here is the idea...this isn't a resolution. This is part of my blog for the year and I want you to join me! Every Friday we will have a blog link up where you can share your final creative moment for the week. Don't think you can commit to doing it everyday? No problem! Why not just do it once a week? Maybe it's Friday when the link up will be or maybe it's Wednesday! It doesn't matter. Let's dig into those creative bones and lets share what we have been doing!

Now you are probably wondering how this connects to my blog and helping with eating disorders and preventing them. Let me give you a few reasons.

1. I will be doing this with my daughters. It's a great way to help them explore their creativity as well! I feel like it's also a great way to spend quality time with them each day!

2. The arts are a wonderful way for people to explain their feelings. I am never one to express myself  wonderfully when speaking, but give me a camera and I can help you understand me a little bit better. Give me paints and my heart will be on canvas.

3. I hope that this gives moms and daughters (or sons) a way to connect. And I hope that we can come together on Fridays and share what we have been learning. It's a great way to share ideas and help one another!

So are you in? Want to join? If so there are a few ways you can do it. Head on over to Amazon and buy the book! Or if you just want to follow along with my blog that is fine too. Either way take a day or take 365 and join us in creating! First thing is first the book suggest that the key to doing a successful daily project is choosing a subject or medium you will enjoy exploring for the year. I will give you what mine will be...Hearts! Get it? Tender Hearts...It just seemed to fit right. I wanted to pick a specific theme rather than a medium because I didn't want to stick to one type of art work. I love photography and I could do a whole years worth of pictures for this blog, but I want to challenge myself to work in other mediums.

Will you join me? Come back tomorrow for the sign up and let me know if you are in. And don't worry you can commit to once a day, once a week or once a month. Whatever you feel you can do. I hope you will join me. See you tomorrow!


Sunday, December 30, 2012

Holiday Crash

Holidays. The word brings excitement  but it also brings a dark fear into my head at times. The food. It brings comfort, but it also brings shame sometimes. It's hard to explain to some people, but others get it right away. For me holidays have become carefree for the most part. The fear of the food is no longer an issue and I can enjoy my family and friends.

For others the holidays are the most stressful time of the year. Obligated to spend time eating with other people. The thoughts of how it's going to make you look. How much food did I just eat? What weight will I gain? How am I going to fix this? The thoughts keep coming and it seems as if you can do nothing about them.

It's worst right now. In the middle. You've had Thanksgiving and Christmas now your only goal for the new year is to lose all the weight you just gained plus more. It's hard to get in solid thoughts that make sense to a person who has non-logical thoughts. So what can you do?

Continue to spend time with them. Let them talk if they need to talk. Sometimes all you need is an ear to listen or a shoulder to lean on. Help them sort through their thoughts. Let them know if you don't understand. They may not always be able to explain it very well, but at least it gives them a chance to try. Continue to love them for who they are. Let them know that no amount of weight they could lose will make them better or make you love them more. No amount of weight they gain will make you love them less. If you see someone having a hard time...reach out. Be that person they can go to.


Friday, December 28, 2012

Merry Christmas...Happy New Year

It was an eventful Christmas for us! We pray that your Christmas was filled with joy and the love of Christ. May the New Year hold blessings beyond what you can imagine! 


Saturday, December 22, 2012

Snow Days!

I have to admit I love a good snowfall. I do get sick of it after awhile. When it's been too cold for too long and the white stuff just won't go away. But when you have lived in different places where snow just doesn't come you really do long for a white Christmas...because it's just not the same without snow! And after not having snow at all and thinking we may not have a white was a very welcomed snow day yesterday.

No school. No place to go. Just a chilly day to spend inside sipping coffee (hot chocolate for the girls) and cuddling up with a movie during rest time. I mentioned before that Christmas brings lots of great activities to do with my girls. Sorry for all of you who live in warmer's activity won't be easy for you to do.

Going out to play in the snow sounds like so much fun. But then when I really think about it I begin to feel stressed out. 5 jackets to put on. 5 pairs of snow pants. 10 gloves to find and pair up. 10 snow boots to locate. 5 hats....oh where are they???? hour later the girls are dressed and ready to play in the snow for 10 minutes!

My favorite thing to do in the snow is to make a snowman! We find the hat that belongs to a sister and mismatching gloves and the snowman with the goatee is finished. Until everyone realizes the things that were used were things they really needed...even though they hadn't used them forever! Perfect activity for a snow day!


Monday, December 17, 2012

Sing Some Songs

It's that time of year when singing consumes my life! I hear it in the house. Outside on the streets. I hear them in my children's voices on a cold winter's night. Normal days are filled with songs, but when Christmas is around I feel like the Grinch whose heart grew three sizes that day. Joy fills every ounce...even when mourning surrounds, my heart is still uplifted.  

She was an angel and she took her job so seriously. Singing praises to the King who came as a baby. She's growing to understand what that means. To have a Father send his Son for you and me. But why a baby? Why not just the King? She gets it...because "He grew like me!" So personal. So rich. So deep. Yet so simple.

Our advent activity for you to try....a Christmas song written by the littles! I simply asked for ideas and then they put it together. Here is ours...I'd love to hear yours!

When snow is falling
I start to think
Of Christmas time

Time for family
And time for cheer
Christmas time is coming near

Songs to sing
And presents to open
Christmas candy is overflowin'

Thoughts of Santa
And raindeers pawing
But what am I really knowing?

Jesus' birthday
Is why we cheer
He brings hope to all who fear...

Saturday, December 15, 2012


I remember where I was April 20th, 1999 when I found out about the school shooting. I had just finished my race at a track meet and was on my way home with my parents. At first I wasn't shocked enough. Perhaps it was I didn't really fully understand what had happened. I remember my mom getting upset and claiming it was because I was desensitized. I think she may have been right. Living life with numbness was what I had gotten use to.

The radio was turned on and it was news of the kids who lost their lives because they answered Yes! Do you believe in God? What if your life depended on it? A gun in your face...would it change your answer? I had never really thought about that. And for us in America things like this just didn't happen...but now they were a reality. It changed my perspective.

I remember where I was October 2nd, 2006 when I heard about the Amish school shooting. I was living outside of the country and read about it in the English newspaper. Even in a country where religious persecution exist they were in awe of the religion the Amish followed, which allowed them to show such forgiveness. Forgiveness. I was battling with the idea of forgiveness. This started me on a journey of simple forgiveness.

December 14th, 2012 none of my kids were at school. I took them all to the gingerbread house activity that the homeschool group was having. I sat there not knowing what was going on in the world at that moment. I came home and we started quiet time and I logged onto Facebook. What I saw brought tears to my eyes right away. Knowing that most of those killed where young children made me get up and go snuggle with them during quiet time. I know if they had been at school I would have been a wreak and wanted to go get them right away. I was thankful I had the time with them right then. Able to spend a quiet moment in prayer for all those families.

This happens way too often. I feel as if every time I turn on the news I hear about another shooting. More people dead. More families to mourn their loss. I have no wonderful words of comfort...just that I am praying for them. J.J. Heller has a wonderful song called Your Hands and the words seem very appropriate.

When my world is shaking, heaven stands
When my heart is breaking
I never leave your hands

Your hands that shaped the world
Are holding me
They hold me still


Thursday, December 13, 2012

Season of Advent

I never really knew a lot about advent. I knew about Christmas. Presents. Trees. Stars. Jesus. I had friends who celebrated advent and I have a hazy memory of one year our church lighting candles the few Sundays before Christmas.

It wasn't really until I was living in Asia that I really understood what advent was all about. Those of your who have ever spent a Christmas in Asia might find this funny, that in an area of the world where Christmas is pretty much purely a commercial holiday...I finally get the idea of advent.

Waiting. He's coming. He came for me. We use this time to make our family times a bit more special. We share a bit deeper about the story. We start at the beginning and the start of it all. We talk about creation and head right towards the fall.

The fall...the whole reason we needed Him to come. Can you imagine sending your child to die for others? The greatest gift was hope given to us in the form of a baby...

Tomorrow we are taking inspiration from Katherine Marie Photography and working on a little different gingerbread house. One that will be fun to make and we can tell the story again about how Christ came to be with us. The story of the angel, the shepards, the wise-men and the humble birth of Jesus.

Don't want to make the nativity? That's ok, it's still a great time and activity to do with your children. I would love to see all of you making gingerbread houses with your daughters or sons. Send me a picture if you have time!

Hope to hear from you all soon! 


Wednesday, December 12, 2012


I'm back! I have actually sat down to write this post a number of times. My mind just hasn't been with it lately so it's taken me longer to get back to posting! I am! Back and ready to go!

I now have a void in my body. There is a part of me missing. It's actually a very strange feeling, and around the second night I was home from the hospital I really noticed it. I was resting on the couch mindlessly watching a movie and I felt the void right where my thyroid use to be. It just felt empty.

I remember having this same feeling before. I was a teen and my life had gone numb. I had blocked out all common sense that was coming from any grounded source. It was this void in my life. I once felt full in that same place. I had once had God. I had relationships. I had family...but I had cut them out of my life.

See right now this physical void in my body is fixed by giving me medication. 1 pill a day and my body fixes what is missing. The problem with my void before...I wasn't fixing it. I was trying too. I was attempting to fill it up with my obsession with food and weight. My mind would fool me with things like "If I hit this weight or size then I'll feel happy again." But the problem is it was never enough. Nothing ever made me feel better. "Having this boyfriend will make me feel happy." But it was all a failure.

My now husband gave me a great reminder one day. This was before we were dating, and I hardly knew him. I was sitting in the back of the church during one of our big chapel times. They were playing worship songs and it always soothed my soul to sit and listen.  He came and sat in front of me and then turned around and asked "What is it that you want?"

The question took me by surprised. Perhaps it was the person asking. Maybe it was just not what I was expecting...but the answer came quickly. "I want to be truly happy"

Anyone who knew me when I first got to college would know that my future husband's answer was spot on. "Stop putting your trust in guys. They will never fill you." He just walked away. Being at college I started to let go of my terrible eating habits, and started to fill my void with guys. Part of it was trying to redeem men and let myself know that there were great guys out there. But the truth was they only let me down. The didn't help fill the void. It's even true when I started dating my husband. He didn't fill the void that I had cut out of my life. The only thing that would do that is letting back in the most important person in my life. God.

Tomorrow I am going to share with you ways to help your daughters draw closer to God. What a great time of the year to talk about it! :)