I've given up on New Years resolutions. Every year I make one and every year I fail. We all have wonderful intentions, but are those intentions helping us? Are they getting us to a place were we will succeed or are they setting us up for failure? I often wonder how many of us actually go through with our resolutions or how many of us are sitting in the same place we were last year...really wishing we would have finished or made it to our goal.
Perhaps that's why this year many of us just chose the word. That's what I found to be much better, and it's put less pressure on me to achieve a goal that sometime is unattainable. How often do we set resolutions that are just not going to happen and we know it the moment we say them! I have found that living life day by day is a much better plan for me, and helps me to keep things from spiraling out of control.
What are my goals for today? What do I want to accomplish? What do I need at the end of my day? Those are my resolutions for the day. Making sure I take the time to accomplish my goals and live life to the fullest each day.
I have noticed more and more that my oldest needs the same encouragement in her day. She needs help focusing on what's important and what needs to be done. She is getting to a place in life where it's less about toys and playing and more about what life is about. Things she wants to do and accomplish. So we normally start our day talking about what we/she wants as a goal for the day. What needs to be accomplished. What does she need at the end of the day? It's been helpful these last few days and we have had fewer tears and fights.
I wonder if keeping this up with her and eventually starting it with the others will help with goals in the future. Will this help them to keep the important stuff in mind and help them to not worry so much about the smaller things?
I want to hear what you do to help your daughters focus or yourselves focus. And teens I want to hear your ideas. What are ways you make your day go smoother? Do you think big year resolutions are good?